I Decided.

If you’ve been following me on IG this week you will notice the theme: Decisions and decision-making. (And if you are not following me on IG, whaaattt??? I’m funny. @radiate_from_within). And maybe you are thinking, “Um, Kath, if you are this big expert in decision-making, why do you still have your day job? Why not just DECIDE to leave?”

I’ll tell you why, because I DECIDED to stay, and I love my reasons (so there).

At this point, you might be thinking, “Hey, you just stayed so you could AVOID deciding.” That’s certainly one possibility…BUT, it’s not mine. I DECIDED to stay AND be happy. I DECIDED to stay AND go back to enjoying my work. I DECIDED to stay AND concentrate on the value I can bring every day. Maybe it’s not my dream job. Maybe it’s not my favorite job. But right now, I have an obligation to do the work and for me, that means doing it well, with integrity and, when possible, a little levity and joy. It’s a choice.

Do you think you have no choice? Cutbacks, layoffs, constantly thinking, “Everybody around here is just plain STUPID” – not possible to find joy or even a little hope in THIS situation. 

Of course, you can…but only you can DECIDE.

Any time your job, the weather, or your in-laws “make” you feel unhappy or cranky or just plain miserable, you are NOT deciding. You are allowing….Allowing the situation to dictate how you think and feel. 

I tell you what, that sucks. Seriously. I live in New England. If I got upset every time the weather didn’t cooperate, I’d be permanently miserable (You’ve seen Norman Rockwell paintings, right??). 

I’m not saying I’m perfect. When it poured rain at my dear friend’s 40th birthday party I was as disappointed as everyone else. But then, we decided to make the best of it, and guess what, we had a great time. Yes, we were inside. Yes, we were crowded. But mother nature did not dictate our experience. 

I invite you to wonder, “What outside forces (that I CAN’T control) drive my feelings?” Write them down. Ponder. “Work” is just an outside force in your life – you get to DECIDE how you want to think and feel about it.

Sound impossible? Book a consult call with me and we can go through it. I will show you how I did it. It’s simple (NOTE: Not EASY….Simple)

“If you obsess over whether you are making the right decision, you are basically assuming that the universe will reward you for one thing and punish you for another.
 

The universe has no fixed agenda. Once you make any decision, it works around that decision. There is no right or wrong, only a series of possibilities that shift with each thought, feeling, and action that you experience.”
-Deepak Chopra